Your Spanking Visit


First Impressions

If you would like to visit me for discipline, you may either telephone or email me. Phoning will assure you that you are dealing with the sort of upper class English lady that you should expect to get a good, sound British Spanking from. However, emailing is also fine – we can talk afterwards. What I want most is to make sure that we are in tune with each other. I spank for pleasure, and because I believe men need it.

Whichever you do, please remember that first impressions are very important. Ensure that you are respectful and show good manners. I like intelligent people with a sense of humour, who are honest, fun to be with, respectful and above all, who love to be spanked.

Speaking of first impressions, please remember I am an English Disciplinarian, not a mistress. Start your email with ‘Dear Miss Ophelia’, and do not refer to me as “Mistress” or “Goddess”.

Your initial email should state your level of experience, your likes, your dislikes and anything else that may be relevant. It helps me to know you better and see if we will be compatible. Please keep your email simple however – there is no need for a Shakespearian play. Ensure you include the days and times you are available or prefer.

Having introduced yourself to me, you are now set to offer yourself to an enthusiastic, energetic and ardent disciplinarian who would like nothing better than to give you a jolly good hiding, just as in times gone by. By now I will also have a clear idea of what you need, the degree of strictness or severity, and will be looking forward to administering it. Many men have something within them that tells them they need a spanking; they may have never had one yet just know they need it, or they may have grown up with it, and want to revisit that inner place. It is my authenticity as an advocate of corporal punishment, along with my own profound training and background on the receiving end, that allows me to truly understand men who need to have their bottoms bared by a calm but disciplinary matriarch. Indeed, you will be privileged to be dealt with by one of the world’s best and most experienced disciplinarians of men.

“I was shocked but delighted to find that the lady who put me across her knee and turned me back into a squirming little boy, was exactly the same lady who was so nice and friendly at the kitchen table. I’ve never met anyone who was the real thing before. You were just like my aunt”.

T.C Kent

You will be pleased to know that visiting me for a spanking means spending time with someone who will not rush you in, spank you, and rush you out. We will have a cup of tea or coffee, chat, swap stories and get to know each other before we get to your spanking. And when we do, you will not be disappointed. You will find that I am not acting, nor playing a role, I am innately a disciplinarian, wherever I am.

I occupy myself this way because I genuinely believe men need hot bottoms, however, I am aware not everyone wants a long session, and am considering offering shorter sessions of 15 minutes. Please ask me about this when you call if you think this suits you better.


While I generally devote my time to disciplining males, who all need it in my opinion, I will in special circumstances accept naughty young ladies who have an urge to be spanked by a woman of superior bearing. If you are weak then I can guarantee to beat some backbone into you. However, I don’t see couples.

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General Rules

– You are welcome to use my toilet but please don’t make a mess; it’s not a locker room. Cleanliness is very important to me.

– Please come respectably dressed when coming to see me. This means I do not expect you to stick out like a sore thumb.

– I believe I am similar to many other disciplinarians in my likes and dislikes. We all like the basic courtesies in life, so please arrive at the session showered, well-groomed and with pleasant but not excessive after shave or cologne. Ensure your clothes are clean without dirty collars and please don’t wear greying undergarments.

– This may sound obvious but I also expect you to arrive in a fit condition for the spanking you are about to receive. Do not come bloated after a large meal or smelling of drink. You do not need a sore head, you have come to get a sore bottom! And, although I shouldn’t need to say this, I expect you to be drug and alcohol-free.

– Please don’t ask me to remove any of my clothing as there will be NO nudity on my part. Don’t ask for permission to touch me or lift up my skirt or uncross my legs – it’s just not my thing and it won’t happen. I do not want any topping from the bottom. I am a disciplinarian, if you are looking for sex play, I am not for you.

– I also do not want to hear any foul language at any time whatsoever.

– Lastly, I do not and will not mix my professional life with my personal life – even if you are a handsome, financially comfortable, single person. I have a life and I expect you have too. I expect my personal life and my personal space to be respected as I will respect yours.

Some Definite ‘Nots’

As a professional domestic disciplinarian, a traditional disciplinarian, please note what you will NOT find here:

  • Sex is NEVER on the menu – ever.
  • Foot/hand worship is acceptable, with permission.
  • I do NOT have a dungeon, whipping benches, St Andrew’s crosses, bondage equipment or the other items associated with dominatrix.
  • I DON’T wear leather or rubber.
  • I do NOT switch. In fact the very thought is a big turn off for me.

I do not want either of us to be embarrassed or disappointed, so if you need any of those things, I would ask you continue searching elsewhere.

Please go to the YOUR SPANKING SESSION page to find out more about what to expect if you find yourself across my knee.